The Problem of Being Too Nice + What to Do About It

You may show a smile to the world but no one really knows how you feel

You were molded to be nice and taught that nice is a synonym to being kind. They are not the same. Being too nice will get you a bunch of things, but rarely…what you want. You have been told that being nice is what you are supposed to do. And that ‘Nice Guys’ finish last […]

Give Yourself Permission to Succeed

LET YOURSELF BE GREAT Giving yourself permission to succeed takes courage beyond measure. The truth is, scrutiny, criticism, and self-doubt are paralyzing factors. WHO do you think you are? But the real question is: who would you become if you allowed yourself to succeed? You want more, but are afraid to say: you won’t let […]

Always Getting Ready to Live but Never Living

Getting ready and never arriving OR always getting ready to live but never living is like perpetually putting on makeup to go to a big party, putting on the dress then sitting on the bed and falling asleep. Over and over again aka the movie, Ground Hog’s Day. Similarly, you want to start a new […]

How to Make Up Your Mind

In the world of endless choices, it feels impossible to make up your mind. The game of what if this or what if that dances endlessly in your head. The main driver of the what if game is, what if I make the wrong decision? What if others don’t like my decision? As you know […]

Failure Doesn’t Really Exist, Its Just Feedback

Whoever told you that failure exists told you a big fat lie. Failure doesn’t exist it’s just feedback on how to do something differently. Don’t believe the hype. You are not alone, I bought the t-shirt too. When I think about when I tried on rental roller skates for the first time, I was thrilled […]

Dreaded Networking Question

You are at a networking meeting or a social function and someone asks, ‘what do you do?’ The music in your head plays, ‘DOM DOM DOM.’ You grimace. Your stomach ties itself into a sailor’s knot. Time seems to have slowed down and now you have cotton mouth. It is difficult to exude confidence when […]

Settling has Consequences

Life events can be so shocking, it makes you feel like settling for whatever hand you are dealt. It feels like there is no choice in the matter. But settling has consequences, big ones! Life comes at you hard and fast. These events change the fabric of who you thought you were. Talk about unsettling. […]

Courage

#EleanorRoosevelt said, ‘You gain strength courage and confidence by every experience by which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.’ If you think you can’t, then you can’t. Whatever you truly believe is reflected in your life. Do you like what you […]

Too Much

If someone tells you that you are TOO much, smile, thank them, but never stop Being and Doing YOU. Never! This is a signal that they are comfortable where they are in their life and you are upsetting their apple cart. It is important to remember two things: 1- Do Not take it personally. 2- […]