My Friends Aren’t There for Me

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When people fall away, let them. People will move out of your life or shift in your life, I say, it is ok to LET them. You want to declare, ‘my friends aren’t there for me.’ I get it, but…

It isn’t personal. As the saying goes: everything happens for a reason, for a season or for a lifetime. Life is a string of seasons. The other saying is: nothing lasts forever. A person entered your life because you were at a certain level in your life.

And when you change, so do the people around you, if they aren’t willing to change in the new ways that you have decided are important and vital to you. It is no different than you wanting to jump from a plane and your friend is a Ferris wheel person.

You don’t have to negate the fact that you ever knew them and loved them deeply. If you skip this step it will hurt your feelings and make you feel as if you have done something wrong. You have not. You may feel weird or out of sorts because of their behavior, but remember, this is not about how it looks to ANYone else.

Power Leak: wanting, yearning and chasing another person for their approval.

Enjoy the moments, keep them as they will help you trust yourself when someone new comes into your life. If you regret your decisions, then you may distrust your emotions of trying again. This is for ANY relationship: friendship or romantic.

Striving for a bigger juicier life means that not everyone can go with you. You may be spared, especially if they can’t be joyful and truly happy for you. This is why it is so important to practice being your own best friend.

No one else is going to be as excited about your life besides you and they shouldn’t be. After all, they have their own lives to look after.

Again, it’s not personal AND you shouldn’t take offense either. (I mean you could, but what is the point?) If there is no energy coming from you about your life, then how in the world can someone else fill your shoes AND their own?! This is an impossible and burdensome expectation.

Expecting anyone to care for you more than you DO is unrealistic and will leave you disappointed. EveryTIME! This is a guarantee.

Life is NOT the Jerry McGuire movie.

‘You complete me’ is fiction. Do Your work and be responsible for your life. Please and thank you![/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]You achieve something you have always wanted or something wonderful happens to you by surprise or luck. Of course, you want to share it with those closest to you.

So you do. Only it is anti-climatic, like a flat soda. They sucked all the joy out of the ‘thing’. You regret ever telling them.

You had a thought, you have built feelings around it, you gestated it, you birthed it and now you must nurture it. Therefore, no one knows this thing better than you.

It’s tricky though, isn’t it? You want your party AND your cake. You can still have it (yes to celebrating your wins, please do this), just make sure it is an unconditional party. One that, no matter what happens or who attends, you will still have a good time.

Fill your own cup and celebrate your own wins as if there are hundreds of you (a la Mr. Smiths in the Matrix).

For today consider:

  • Am I happy with my new decision or opportunity?
  • Do I respect where I am headed?
  • If I stopped doing this because he/she isn’t happy about the change, am I still happy?
  • Can I allow them to feel however they feel and still do me?

You can jump on the justification train of how you want to be treated and celebrated and what you would do if the shoe were on the other foot, but those are hypotheticals (and justification trains lose their brakes).

What is true is you have this opportunity to do something great or be more AND you should step forward and have it. Celebrate and be happy for you.

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